I hate to be the one to break this to you, but there’s only one BIG reason you don’t trust your intuition.
It’s so simple that it might make you a little mad.
But that big reason can manifest as so many different reasons it can be tricky!
So I’m going to help you identify them.
If you keep saying, “I knew it”, or, ”I should have trusted my gut”, or you realize that you don’t act on your intuitive nudges enough, keep reading!
Everything you experience teaches you a specific lesson about yourself or how you relate to the world around you.
And sometimes, those lessons can be painful, which is when you can pick up behaviors, bad habits, and false information as protection. When it comes to trusting your intuition, these emotional experiences will teach you that it is not safe to trust yourself.
And once you stop trusting yourself, you embrace unhealthy coping mechanisms, start people-pleasing, and begin making yourself smaller. All so that you do not have to experience those feelings again.
So if you’ve been struggling to trust your gut, there is one BIG reason behind it! You don’t trust your intuition because of fear. Fear manifests in SO many different ways and leaves us with a strained relationship with our inner voice.
You could also be at a point where you have identified what your inner voice sounds like, but you are having trouble trusting what it’s telling you. Sound about right? Well, you’re in the right place!
Check out this list of emotional experiences and discover what in your past may have led you to believe that you can’t trust your intuition!
1. Heartbreak can stop you from trusting your gut.
Heartbreak will cause you not to trust your intuition about other people.
One HUGE, super common reason why you don’t trust your intuition is because of past heartbreak.
As humans, we’re all destined to go through heartbreak. Whether it’s romantic, platonic, or familial.
At some point in your life, you will experience heartbreak, and you’ll be the one to break a few hearts. But in the end, you are responsible for what lessons you take away from that heartbreak.
For example, a man meets a beautiful woman. He focuses on pursuing her and only her, but she doesn’t feel the same way. The man is crushed, heartbroken. He followed a feeling he believed to be his intuition, and when she broke his heart, it left a mark of self-doubt. As a result, now he pursues no one, even though it’s been many years later.
In a perfect world, heartbreak would have happened, and he would have been hurt. Then after some time, he would realize that person not being able to reciprocate his love has nothing to do with him or the quality of his intuition.
What To Remember About Heartbreak
- Your decision to love is always the right decision.
- There will be people that love you the way you love them.
- Determine whether it is your Ego or your Intuition that is choosing them.
- Someone hurting you is not your fault.
- Listen to your intuition the first time something feels off.
- A comfortable relationship is not always a healthy relationship.
2. You don’t trust your intuition because of disappointment.
Disappointment can teach you not to trust your intuition about outcomes or circumstances.
When you’ve been disappointed, it’s because you expected an event to go the way you imagined.
And unfortunately, it doesn’t work out that way. This can make you feel like maybe the intended outcome isn’t for you at all.
And now you can’t trust your instincts about your direction in life.
For example, you make a vision board, and one of your goals is to graduate with a degree. But now it’s year number 4, and you’re nowhere near graduating. You might start to think that getting that degree is not for you because it should have only taken 4 years.
Now you’re wondering if your intuition led you in the wrong direction in the first place.
When trusting your intuition leads to disappointment, remember this:
- That outcome can still be your destiny, but your specific journey might require you to take a different path to get there.
- The way you a trying to achieve the outcome may not be healthy for you.
- Initial disappointment makes you appreciate it more when you do achieve it.
- Disappointment is just an emotion. Your intuition is knowledge. Trust your gut over everything.
3. Gaslighting is the ultimate intuition blocker.
Gaslighting will teach you not to trust your intuition about your current reality.
It instills a fear in you that what you are currently experiencing isn’t real. Most people usually describe this emotional manipulation as something other people do TO you. But it’s actually pretty easy to gaslight yourself.
Especially if you’ve had any relationship in your past where the person has gaslit you.
It’s easy to adopt those ways of thinking and apply them to yourself.
And these manipulative relationships are not always romantic. They can show up with your parents, your friends, your boss, and even your acquaintances.
If you aren’t quite sure what gaslighting is, you can check out this blog post that has some signs to look out for and information on where to get help.
Tips for when gaslighting causes you not to trust your gut.
- Get grounded. Gaslighting works because we overthink what we already know to be true.
- Find other opinions. If you think you’re being gaslit, reach out to more than one person for advice. Don’t assume that person knows better than you do.
- Practice acting on your intuition. Start small. This will build up your self-confidence when it comes to trusting your instincts.
4. Distractions Are Why You Don’t Trust Your Intuition.
Distractions will teach you not to trust your intuition about where you put your focus.
You can very often fall into distractions as a form of self-sabotage.
It is a subconscious way that fear sneaks in. When you worry that you don’t deserve something your intuition has already told you is meant for you, you will procrastinate. And procrastination usually manifests as finding things to distract yourself with.
Distractions also keep us from identifying with our intuition in the first place.
It’s extremely difficult to tell what is your inner voice and what isn’t when your attention is constantly being pulled elsewhere.
If you’ve been struggling with this, my number one hack is using THIS journal method that I use in my Fear and Anxiety Emergency Kit!
It helps me identify which voice actually sounds like me.
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Negative Self-Talk Opposes Your Intuition.
Negative Self-Talk teaches you not to trust your intuition about your self-image. It’s the fear of being less than perfect.
Unfortunately, the idea of perfection comes from comparing yourself to some outside source that you deem as “perfect”.
Negative self-talk always tells you the opposite of what your intuition knows to be true. That’s why it lowers your mood so drastically.
If your internal chatter tells “I can’t do anything right”, Your intuition has already told you that you’re doing your best, and it’s enough. It’s an external source you over-compare yourself to that makes you doubt that.
Those external sources are meant to show you what you are on your way to if you take the steps you need to take. It’s supposed to be proof that the outcome you want is possible.
You only have to follow your intuition.
Examples of Negative Self Talk that Lead You to Doubt Your Intuition.
- I don’t deserve ___.
- Nothing even matters.
- Bad things always happen to me. I’m so unlucky.
- It’s too good to be true.
- I can’t do that because ___.
- Nobody Cares.
Low Self-Worth Tells You Not To Trust Your Gut.
Low Self-Worth teaches you not to trust your intuition about who your soul is.
It’s the fear of realizing your potential. A fear that a lot of us have but usually don’t recognize.
It’s the fear of stepping into your power. And that scares you because it requires growth and boldness that can be uncomfortable if you’re not used to it.
Most importantly, it requires you to do the shadow work to realize that you’ve been accepting less than what you deserve for way too long! And that can be a scary thing to face.
Fortunately, low self-worth can be improved by simply listening to and acting on your intuition and familiarizing yourself with your shadow.
I recommend starting on a positive note and identifying your personal strengths!
I have the perfect thing to help you out!.
Check out this article on how you can identify your personal strengths and reach your goals!
Conclusion
If you’ve found yourself in a place where you don’t trust your intuition and aren’t sure what to do, diving deep into these points can help you work through it. Fear can manifest in so many ways that you don’t even recognize it.
So the real key to working through it is by becoming familiar with your shadow self. For more information on how your shadow self can make you feel stuck, read this blog post next.
3 Hidden Ways Your Shadow Self Makes You Feel Stuck!
And as always, I’m sending love and healing your way!
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