It’s essential that all empaths understand these 3 harsh truths! Improve the quality of your life by embodying these truths and leave the life of the unhealed empath behind!
You are NOT a victim.
All empaths must learn these harsh truths so that they are not doomed to always absorb everyone else’s emotions.
Most people claim you can only be an empath if you are empathetic to your own detriment.
Constantly struggling with empathy burnout and emotional manipulation from others.
While that may be true for the unhealed empath, it’s no longer true for you!
Because you’ve found this blog post.
It’s time for all empaths to realize these 3 truths and make the transition from unhealed empath to the empathic healer.
Stick around until the end for tips on how to be the healer you were meant to be!
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Before my spiritual journey, I never even knew there was a name for what I was embodying!
I would describe myself back then as an unhealed empath who struggled with codependency.
If you weren’t okay, I wasn’t okay.
It wasn’t until I started to heal myself of my fear and anxiety that I realized half of it I was just absorbing.
Since embracing my empathic abilities and discovering these 3 Harsh Truths, the quality of my life has increased astronomically!
Check them out for yourself!
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Harsh Truth #1: You Are ALWAYS In Control. And Deep Down You Know It.
Yes, you can tap into feelings, energies, and subtle cues in your environment.
That does not mean you have to be a sponge.
Don’t become a victim of your empathetic gifts.
Empathy is a gift, a talent, in fact. Most empaths don’t realize that.
Not everyone is capable of feeling their own emotions so deeply, let alone other people’s.
I know sometimes being an empath can leave you feeling like a victim.
Like you can’t control the influence other people’s emotions have on you.
Even though emotion is very fluid, you are always in control. At any moment in time, you are choosing what feelings you take on and what feelings you can just observe from other people.
This will take a bit of emotional healing, introspection, and maybe a little therapy. But once you master it, nothing can touch you!
As an empath, your quality of life improves when you realize that you are in control of your emotions! No matter what outside influence may be floating around.
How You Can Learn To Control Your Empathic Abilities for Better Quality of Life.
- Learn to Identify your emotions vs. other people’s emotions.
- Spend time alone.
- Learn your inner voice.
- Observe how you feel around people one on one.
- Practice Discernment.
- Ask Yourself: Is this person authentically attempting to connect with me? Why might they be reaching out for a connection with me?
- Ask Yourself: Am I in an unfamiliar environment? Are there other people around whose emotions I am picking up on?
- Did I recently engage in content or media that may be affecting how I feel? Should I keep engaging with this content?
- Learn healthy coping mechanisms for when uncomfortable feelings arise.
- Practice meditation to recenter your mind and body.
- Engage in deep breathing techniques to calm your nervous system.
- Journal regularly to allow the feelings pass through you.
- Pause before springing into action in an attempt to make them feel better.
- Before immediately helping people through their feelings, pause and acknowledge how you felt before the interaction.
- Next, recognize how you feel after that person expresses their feelings to you.
- If they are anxious, do you feel anxious? If they are mad or upset, how are you feeling? This will tell you a lot about what feelings you are absorbing.
- Empaths need to always check in with themselves FIRST!
Harsh Truth #2: Stop Taking Responsibility for Other People’s Feelings.
Trust that everyone is capable of handling their own emotions. Even if they’re not, you can’t afford for that to be your problem!
I know you want to help because you can feel their discomfort but think of it as practice. That person is learning how to work through their emotions.
Learn to support them without being their emotional middle man.
Everyone else’s emotions do not have to be level for you to feel okay. Stop attempting to fix people’s emotional states.
People are allowed to have negative feelings.
When you are constantly in a state of needing to fix other people’s problems, your empathy has turned into codependency!
You won’t become cold and unfeeling. It just means you will learn how to relate to people without attachment.
You can empathize like you naturally do, but you do not have to sit in that emotion with them.
You’re not responsible for fixing them.
Tips for empaths to let go of emotional responsibility for a better quality of life.
- Remember that just because you don’t stay in the emotion with them, doesn’t mean you love them any less.
- Realize that someone who wants you to feel the exact same way they do is emotional manipulation. Especially if it happens often.
- Recognize that codependent behavior from empaths is typically a result of a past history of emotional abuse, emotional neglect, or an inconsistent parent.
- Realize that you can not help someone else if you are not emotionally regulated.
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As an empath, your quality of life improves when you realize that you are in control of your emotions!
Kayla Sharee, Tending Your Transformation
Boundaries to set to stop taking on the Emotional Responsibility.
- Stop letting everyone vent to you.
- Some people you allow to vent to you will only keep you around because you validate their emotions. Everyone should not get the pleasure of you being their soundboard or cheerleader. Create a list of who is worth it and who isn’t. Identify who else is reciprocating the energy you give them.
- Put limits on the times you do let people vent.
- Avoid sharing emotions with others before bed or first thing in the morning.
- Don’t allow people to dump their emotions if you are not in the right headspace.
- Suggest healthier ways for others to express their emotions when you don’t have the capacity for it.
- Distance yourself from people that don’t respect your boundaries.
- If you set any of these boundaries in place, notice who violates or disrespects them.
- Remove your energy from these people immediately because they will not take well to your healing journey.
Harsh Truth #3: As an empath you are a healer. But you need to heal first!
You feel so deeply because you are meant to understand emotions and emotional intelligence on a higher level.
That way, you can teach people by example how to manage theirs. Part of an empath’s journey is to identify and own their emotions.
As an Empath, you get caught up because it is difficult to own your feelings when you can’t tell the difference between yours and someone else’s.
That’s why the first two truths need to be understood before you embrace this last one!
It’s super important that you don’t go out looking for people to heal. It is also critical that you do not try to heal every person that comes asking for help.
You will heal people by being the understanding, empathetic soul you are but with boundaries.
You heal others by showing them how to care for another human being without losing yourself.
Healed empaths teach through example and by giving advice in spaces where you are appreciated and valued.
Empaths are the light this world needs because they teach how to care for one another.
It is time for you to embrace your new role. Redefine yourself as an empath. The healed version. The world needs you.
As an Empath, you get caught up because it is difficult to own your feelings when you can’t tell the difference between yours and someone else’s.
Kayla Sharee, Tending Your Transformation
How you can embrace being an empath and a healer.
- Tell your story.
- No matter what you have experienced, your story will always sit with someone. As an empath let people know what you’ve been through, how you’ve healed, and how you’ve thrived!
- Shine your light on the world.
- Master your emotions and learn that is where your power lies. If you can do this, people will be in awe of you and always wonder how you did it.
- Create through your emotions. That is your superpower.
- Give your advice on how others can heal.
- Only do this when it is sought out, and in a safe environment where your energy can’t be drained. Only give as much as you feel comfortable.
- Don’t expect everyone to take your advice either.
- Forgive But Keep Those Boundaries Intact!
- People will make mistakes and drain your energy unknowingly.
- Always forgive who needs forgiving but don’t compromise your boundaries.
- Forgive them and move on because harboring resentment keeps you disconnected from your empathic abilities.
- Learn to control your energy and emotions.
- The mark of a true empathetic healer is someone who can achieve those emotional highs and lows, then recenter themselves when they need to.
- Practice this and watch your abilities evolve.
Conclusion
In your transition from living as an unhealed empath to an empathetic healer, always remember that you are in control.
Leave the victim mentality at home and step into the driver’s seat of your life.
Other people will have uncomfortable feelings along the way, and that’s okay.
It doesn’t have to be your responsibility. It will take practice but I know you will learn how to detach.
And once you heal yourself, you naturally begin to heal other people. There’s no need to seek anybody out!
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